Monday, January 29, 2007

Funny Stories

A couple of funny stories for you!


  1. I like this story. I was teaching the other day, and we were doing clothing and fashion. It was already into a questionable arena when I had to explain the difference between boxers and briefs, and also when a student said something about men wearing panties. Later on, we were playing a game “I'm going to a wedding, and I'm going to wear ___________” with an adjective and a noun. There were 9 women in class and one very shy man, Thomas, who is a friend of mine. So, all the girls went around and said, “I'm going to a wedding and I'm going to wear a green skirt, or a purple scarf, or a big hat”. And then it gets to Thomas, and he says, “I'm going to a wedding, and I'm going to wear kangaroo briefs”. And I said, 'what are kangaroo briefs?'. And my students all started saying, 'you know, kangaroo briefs, for men.' And I asked if that was the brand of the briefs. They said no. And then I asked why there were called that. And one of the girls said, “because they have a little pouch”, and then another girl looked at Thomas, and back at me and said “or a big pouch”, and poor Thomas turned about the color of ketchup. I think I learned my lesson about teaching students about underwear!

  2. Story number two also comes from a student. We were talking about schools, and I asked them to share a strong memory from their school days. There were a lot of stories about broken wrists and cracked-open heads and mean games. And then one girl told the story of her classroom pet, a little bunny. During the summer, no one in the class could take the bunny, so the teacher gave it to a school neighbor to take care of it during the summer. This older gentlemen, according to my student, 'he kill the bunny and he eat it!'. I thought I was never going to stop laughing. It seems like the most 'French' story I could ever hear!



I hope you're doing well and enjoying your own funny surroundings!

Rebecca's Top-Five List of the Most Dangerous Things To Do in Carcassonne


5. Go to the gym (Rugbymen)

4. Cross the street without looking (crazy drivers)

3. Go to la cité on a sunny Sunday (tourists)

2. Go to the Irish pub on a Saturday night (military)

And the Number One Most Dangerous thing to do in Carcassonne...

1. Walk down the street with your eyes closed (dog poop)

Stay safe!! :)

Thursday, January 25, 2007

Why is Dating so Confusing in France?

Maybe because dating doesn't exist. I know this, I have lots of friends with whom I discuss the differences between French relationships and American relationships, I have seen the differences and am fully aware of them, but I have never before been single in France. Single in France. It sounds like a fabulous opportunity, doesn't it? Like all my girl friends back home should be jealous of my situation. The reality, though, is a far cry from the romantic images the idea conjures. Why? See below.


First of all, the relations between men and women are very different. Men and women are not typically friends. As you all know, I have lots of male friends, and that's really important to me. But here, usually, men and women only go out together if they're lovers. This means that anytime I meet a guy and think that he would be a great friend, I can never see him again. Because if I ask if he wants to do something sometime, he of course thinks I am after him, and if he wants to see me again, I must assume that he wants to be my boyfriend. This makes things very confusing for Rebecca, who just wants guy friends, but can't seem to manage it.


It's not that French men aren't attractive and nice and interesting people, but the act of going out several times to get to know someone and then deciding if there could maybe be more than that doesn't really happen here. If someone finds you attractive, and asks you to go out or do something and you agree, that means you are his girlfriend. So, when I was given three different phone numbers the other evening, I really didn't feel inclined to dial any of them.


Here's another thing- they work in pairs, sometimes even teams. This has happened to me twice recently. There will be two good friends, one who actually talks to me and maybe who I think is interesting, and the other who kind of observes. But then it's the observer who I find out later is the one who is interested in me. So, now I clearly can't go out with the first friend (because then the observer will be upset), and I can't go out with the observer (cause who wants to do that?), so we all just say goodbye and the team moves on the next player.


Still, in terms of cultural lessons, I am learning a great deal! :)

New Year, New Journal!



Hi! Welcome to my new journal! Thanks for making the change, and sorry if it's confusing!

I realize it's been over a month, and no, I haven't forgotten about my journal project, just been a bit preoccupied. So, a quick fill in since I last wrote...I went home to the states for the winter break and saw friends and family. It was really wonderful to be home for a couple of days, and though it short and pretty exhausting, I'm glad I got to go home and spend some time in beautiful Oregon with the people I love! When I got back to France, I had a busy work week (also jetlagged and with some sort of stomach bug), and eventually got myself settled back into normalcy. My first weekend back was my birthday, so we went out. And then I had a writing workshop all day on Saturday, which didn't exactly work out as planned, but was still a good day of writing. The next week, I got caught up with friends. One of my friends had a sad family thing happen, so I spent a lot of time talking with her. I went to a writing workshop in French, which was really fun, but difficult. I went to a dinner party, and then went out to the pub (see post: dating in France), worked the next day, and then on Friday afternoon, I went with Michaela to our friend Sarah's parent's house in Albi for the weekend.

Albi is a lovely city with a river flowing through it. Its buildings are red brick and colombage (timber house- much like in Germany), and is known for its famous artist Toulouse-Lautrec. The cathedrale is immense, fortress-like on the outside, and incredibly detailed on the inside, with every surface painted in really very modern motifs. The neighboring museum holds works of Toulouse-Lautrec, from his earliest drawings all the way through his career, thus tracing the evolution of his style, themes, and even specific pieces. It's a wonderful museum for its simplicity and direct handling of the art (there's no abstract explanation or theorized installations, it's more of a gallery, just showing the work), and even though I've been there before, I could spend a lot more time there than I did on this visit.

The weekend was really nice. Sarah's parents are great. They've been traveling all over the world for decades, and are selling their house in April to start traveling again. They are full of stories and questions, and made us very at home with delicious meals and photo albums. It was fun to spend time with a French family, as I haven't done that for quite awhile. Here, I'm back into almost college mode, where you forget that other generations and lifestyles exist other than that of the young adult. Of course, I have lots of friends here of my parent's age, but they are all single adults, not families. And I don't think I've talked to a kid since August, when I left PFS. That's odd.

It's back to work tomorrow, with a dinner on Monday and on Tuesday, a play on Wednesday (Pygmalion- My Fair Lady), and then a huge party that we're throwing on Saturday night.

I'm going to try to be much better about posting regularly, for anyone who actually reads this thing regularly (which I think really is only a few relatives).

Friday, January 19, 2007

Hello!

December 16, 2006
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Shey est bien arrivee!! She got here Sunday evening around 7:30pm, and we spent the whole evening just talking and talking and talking. Unfortunately this week I had to work everyday except Friday, so Shey was on her own, let loose in Carca! All I can say is watch out boys! On Monday after work, we went to writing group together. It was just women this time, and more of us youngsters than usual, and it was really relaxed and fruitful. It also launched a whole theme to the week of discussing writing, and our various styles. I had a dinner party on Tuesday with 6 guests, and that was fun. Then on Wednesday, Shey and Jana and I went on a long walk in the Corbieres. The path we took had sculptures and installations every few hundred meters, and it was a beautiful view over the valley. On Thursday, Shey and I wandered around la cite, had tea and cake at my favorite salon du the, cooked dinner, and just hung out. On Friday, we hung out in Carca, went to la cite at night with Jana, cooked dinner, then went out to the pub, had all our drinks paid for by parachuters, I met a French band- three great French guys who were hilarious!-, and then we went out dancing until 3:30. Saturday we went to the market and then I met Pierre, Bob, David, and David (my posse of middle age men) for wine at the cafe, and Shey met up with us later. The rest of Saturday was spent walking around, and then to Michaela's for vin chaud and cookies. We went to bed early, woke up on Sunday, went for a short walk around town, and then to the airport. It was SUCH a great week with Shey! We had long long talks, great meals, fun little adventures, and she really got to fit into my life here for a week, experience the town, meet my friends, and just relax. She is moving to Mali for three years, and though I'll see her again briefly before she goes, we were both so thankful to have a week just to ourselves with nothing to do really but spend time with each other. I don't recall having so much free uninterrupted time with my best friend since we were kids.

This week has been very calm. Lot's of Christmas shopping and parties. Three dinner parties, two apero's, writing group, etc. I've been packing and getting ready for my trip! I even celebrated Chanukah! We made latkes and played dreidel (spelling?) and then went out to five in the morning. Feeling pretty good today...Saturday- market (as usual), coffee after with friends, then lunch with friends, cafe, and then we went on the giant ferris wheel with amazing views of la cite! It was beautiful. Tonight is another dinner party, tomorrow will be a degustation (wine tasting) and baking cookies for my students. Work on Monday and Tuesday, and then I'll be flying home on Wednesday!

When I have more time, I will write about Christmas time here in Carcassonne!

I hope you're all doing well, and I can't wait to see you! See you soon!

Sorry I've not posted for so long!

December 11, 2006
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So, Friday after Thanksgiving was spent recovering, and then going to the gym, and then to a party at Julien's place dancing to Breton music, and leaving everyone at midnight at the pub because I was exhausted. Then on Saturday, Michaela and her brother, Tomas, and I took their rented car to Minerve, which is “One of the most Beautiful Villages of France” (an official designation). It's true. It's a tiny little village in the most incredible landscape, high up on a narrow hill above a deep gorge that cut through the whole valley creating natural bridges. It's stunning. Then we drove up to several little villages, had a picnic, and then back down to do a wine tasting in a village, where the charming old man showed us the cave and the big tanks, and thought I was sweet enough to be given an extra bottle with my purchases. I'll have to send him a card! That night, Michaela and Tomas cooked a wonderful dinner for Jana and I.


On Sunday, Michaela, Tomas, Emily, and I took the car and explored two Cathar chateaux, Queribus and Peyrepertuse. Queribus is high above the town of Cucugnan. As we ascended the mountain, the fog began to encircle us, and by the time we reached the Chateau, it was completely surrounded by the thick gray stuff. We climbed up to the castle, and explored it. The views would have been stunning, but all we could see was gray. We imagined that the chateau was the last to fall during the crusades because of its ability to hide in the fog. No one would ever know it was there. It was a fascinating building, with holes in the walls for archers, huge common areas, and a dungeon that went I don't know how many meters deep into the earth. That was exciting! With our entrance tickets, we also got to see a little film in the village. We were the only ones in the small theater, and we really didn't know what to expect. As the red velvet curtain opened, it revealed a scale model of the town sitting on a stage, with the screen behind it. The film, which was projected on the screen, as well as on the side walls, was really many still cartoons linked together with the story of how the priest of the local church got his sinning townsfolk to come to church. Does everyone remember The Wizard of Oz (and I hope that some of you watched it over Thanksgiving!)? You know how the wizard appears to be a large green head? Well, this cinematic experience included one of those. On the side wall, a panel would periodically open unveiling a floating green head that was similarly reminiscent of the talking mirror in Snow White (apparently, this movie was a walk down my childhood memory lane).


After the movie, we drove on to Peyrepertuse, another chateau placed precariously on the top of a very high sharp mountain. We climbed up there (my legs hurt on Monday!), walked around the chateau, which was huge, had a picnic at the very top, and then came down just as it began to rain a bit. Unfortunately, there was no film...BUT we drove through a spectacular gorge. This gorge, Les gorges du Verdouble, was enormous with hugely high and deep white and gray rocks, and a road that was built into the side of the rock that literally just hugged the edges sweeping down into the distant base of the gorge. It was stunning, and Kate if you're reading this, the rocks looked like those ones where we camped in Montana, remember? We drove the long way back through hills and past vineyards turning orange and red. And back home tired but happy.


On Monday, I worked, went to the gym, saw a movie with Jana (Lady Chatterly...what a crock of shit), got hot chocolate at the pub, and then talked to my mom and went to bed. On Tuesday, I went to the doctor's to complete my file for my residency here in France. I love going to the doctor in France. The first thing they tell you to do is get naked. And then they take an x-ray (which they gave me! Talk about a good room decoration!) and leave the room, leaving me standing naked without any idea of what to do next. Finally, I can get dressed again, and then the doctor comes in, asks me what state I'm from and we talk about Oregon and Russel Banks for about 10 minutes. Then I'm sent, x-ray in hand, to another office, where I wait for about 45 minutes to see a doctor who checks my breathing, my height, my vision, and takes my word on things like “do you have all your vaccinations?” and “are you in good health?”. Yes and Yes, I answer, he stamps and signs a paper, shakes my hand, and I leave.


On Wednesday, I went and got my Carte de Sejour (my French identity card), and then had coffee with Pierre and Bob, followed by gift shopping with Jana and Tomas, and then I made chocolate chip cookies. After the cookies were all baked, Jana and I went to the pool, where I inadvertently made some friends by being the only person in the pool who was actually swimming and not just floating around. An old Chinese man literally grabbed my arm and said in heavily accented French that I was a good swimmer and he was impressed by the butterfly. It was flattering in a unsettling sort of way. After the pool, we rushed back to get into costumes for Celia's birthday party. I of course don't have anything here for a costume, so I evaluated what I do have, and decided to go as a tourist. Suitcase, maps, guide books, camera, backpack, and water bottle, I was set. We had many other 'best costume' entries, including a Christmas Tree, a street lady, and a slick Spanish disco man.


Thursday, I went to work all day for the last session of the continuing education, where we talked about cooking and then had a huge potluck.


On Friday, Michaela, Tomas, and I went to Toulouse. It's a lovely city with a lot of young people and the famous pink buildings. We were planning on doing some Christmas shopping, but mostly just walked around and looked at things. We came home, I went to the gym and then to the pool with Jana, and then we had dinner at Julie's. Dinner went very late, all of us acting as interpretors for each other because we didn't have one common language between us. I either had to translate French to English for Tomas, or Michaela had to translate French to German for him, or Jana had to translate German to French for Julie and I. We decided that Esperanto might not be such a bad idea.


Saturday was Michaela's birthday. I went to the market, had coffee with friends, and then went shopping for food and gifts. We came home, made a cake for Michi, ate dinner, and then went to her party. The party was great with lots of friends dropping by, and staying until about 1:30. At 2:00am, Jana and I left because I was supposed to be at another party. We took Tomas with us because he was drunk and obnoxious and Michaela was about to kill him, but then we had him on our hands. We met my friend Susan at the pub, and went to the “party” together. At 2 am, Susan promised that the party would still be going strong, but we walked into a house full of smoke and not much else except six other people, including the host and his friend without their shirts on. It was a really weird scene, and I wanted to leave right away because I felt uncomfortable there, but Jana and Tomas, the good Germans they are, each had a beer in hand, and I knew I was stuck for at least the duration of the bottle. Thankfully, my friend Saffarin was there, and we actually had a really philosophical and interesting conversation. He owns a bar in town, and in the course of our talk, he offered to give me a work contract there so that I can stay in France. I don't think that I want to stay in Carcassonne and work at a bar, but the offer was really nice, and definitely appreciated.


Sunday was spent cleaning the apartment, getting my classes ready for next week, and trying to figure out how Shey missed her flight to Carcassonne and how she's going to get here alternatively. The plan is for her to fly instead to Perpignan and take the train to Carcassonne, but neither her nor I know what time these things will occur, so I've just been waiting around the apartment for her call. The poor thing, I hope she doesn't have any more complications on her way here. Of course, knowing her, she'll probably meet some rich French man on the train who will offer her his summer home in Mali to live in while she's there, and access to his fortune and private collection of Olympic-quality ski and soccer equipment. So, I'm looking forward to her arrival and to the story!

A busy week

November 24, 2006
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It's been a busy couple of weeks, so I'll just go with highlights, which are: Writing Workshop, Limoux, and Thanksgiving.


I went to a writing workshop on Saturday at a lovely estate in a village called Vaudereuille, outside of Revel. The estate is called La Grange aux Belles, and consists of a bed and breakfast, gites (furnished rent-able apartments for big groups), a farm, a beautiful old manor house, and a meeting and reception area. There were objects everywhere- old cabinets, bird cages, paintings and maps, vases, dolls, instruments. It was so cozy and interesting, and we sat around a large oak table by a huge fire and drank tea and ate cake and wrote and talked and wrote. We had lunch at a local restaurant, came back to more writing, and then Jana and I got a tour of the place from the owner. We bought a few gifts in her boutique, and drove back to Carcassonne, where we made hot chocolate and talked for several hours. I didn't find much inspiration in the workshop itself, I think because there were only four of us and the leader, and there wasn't too much energy around the table, and because I was distracted and tired. But just getting away into the country, and being in this amazing estate, and just writing was so good. I love writing, and I'm happy that I've been able to work on it, share it, and have time to really get into it. It's been such a gift to be able to involve myself in writing, and to have a found a group of people that share this interest and are all really supportive of each other's creativity and talents. I feel like there are things that I'm doing here that are so essential for me- speaking French, traveling, eating cheese, writing, teaching, and learning. Learning about people, about places, about myself. I do feel lost here sometimes, like I'm not really sure why I'm here or what I'm doing, but I think that I don't have to know the reasons, because I know it's the right thing for me to be here, even if I don't know why.


On the following Monday, I took a ride to Limoux, a small town south of here. Jana had a meeting there, so I tagged along for ride. I literally got out of the car, and walked ten minutes to the bridge going into Old Town, when I thought to myself “is there a mental hospital or something here?”. Turns out there is. The town is full of people with various problems, but this translated into 'the town is full of great stories', like the woman who stopped me in the doorway of the church and told me that a man at the cafe gave her a napkin, a real cloth napkin, like she was a princess, and she also told me that I need to get married, as I'm beautiful and marriage is a sacrament of the church. I assured her that one day I would get married, and left her smiling in the door way with her milky eyes and rough brown hands. Limoux was nice, I had many admirers there in the form of people like this woman and the old men playing boules by the river. After Limoux, Jana and I went to a village nearby called Alet-Les-Bains. This village has natural springs where you can fill bottles, wash clothes, and even take a little stroll in the pool. We brought empty water bottles along with us on purpose to fill them there with the fresh mineral water, and we waded in the pool, which was so relaxing and energizing. After that we took a walk through the village, and couldn't even find a cafe it was so small and empty!


The next big thing to mention is Thanksgiving. It began at 8:30pm Thursday and lasted until 5:00am Friday. We had a huge meal (turkey, four kinds of stuffing, mashed potatoes, mac and cheese, and, thanks to me The Green Stuff, which was a huge hit!, and six different desserts), drinks, and then we went to the pub, where my friend Esmerelda and I sang at the microphone along with the band, until it closed and then made our way to the Cafe de Nuit (the only place open late) where I danced and danced until about 4:30. Finally got home at 5 and spent all day until now in bed. It was so much fun to celebrate the holiday with friends here in Carcassonne. Everyone was so happy to be there and be doing this, and though there were a few nostalgic stories from my friends, everyone was in good spirits!

Other than those big things, there have been dinner parties, housewarming parties, birthday parties, coffee dates with friends, trips to the gym, and work, which I love! I think I may have found something that I could do as a career, or at least as an in-between job. I really love teaching adults English. It's the type of teaching that I have always dreamed about- sharing something that I'm passionate about (language) with people that I find interesting and enthusiastic (adults). Instead of feeling drained of all energy after work as I do with children, I feel happy and energetic and confident. Of course, it helps that at most I only work 6 hours a day!

Ok, enough for now. I have to wait to download more pictures onto flickr (I already surpassed my monthly limit). I made all the pictures public, so now you should ALL be able to see them! Take care and Happy Thanksgiving!

Enough with the baby-slapping!

November 14, 2006
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Ok, I'm sorry, but I have to get something off my chest. I have seen WAY too many moms hitting their children lately. And I'm talking really smacking their kids, their SMALL kids, for the tiniest little things. Like the kid is in a shop and touches something, and the mom says 'don't touch that', and pulls the child's arm really hard. And then the kid tries to touch it again, or whines just a little bit (like quietly says 'owww'), and then the mom just goes nuts, pulling the kid, and slapping him and yelling. No one in the store had even noticed that this child was being disruptive (cause he wasn't), until the mom hits him and yells, and this upsets the child of course. I don't know what to do in these situations, cause a.) it's not my child, b.) it's not my culture, and c.) it's not gonna change anything except make the mom more angry. But I feel horrible seeing this stuff happen constantly, everywhere, and some true violence over NOTHING at all. It's just so unnecessary and disproportional. I mean, violence is never ok, but it's not like the kid went up to the sales person and kicked her in the shins and told her to f-off, or anything like that. It's just crazy. Ok, that's all for now, thanks for listening.

In other news, here's what the gym is like: I decided that I would go and enroll in the gym down the street, like I'd been meaning to do for the last month. It's an old crummy gym, but so close to my apartment that I won't be able to make excuses for avoiding it. Even if this gym is crap, at least it's something. It's located above a grocery store, with a street level door leading to a very steep and long flight of stairs. Above the door is a sign “New Gym” and an arrow pointing directly up the stairs. I climbed the stairs and began to smile as I heard the ridiculously loud reverberations of the FlashDance theme song coming from the gym. I had visited a few weeks before, just to look at it and get some information, and had a met an older woman who was extremely kind and helpful. This was the owner's mother, who looked after the place occasionally. On a second visit, I found no one there who could actually help me with the inscription, so I went back later with the required papers and money, to finally, hopefully, sign up and get started. Each time I had visited, the gym had been empty. But this actually pleased me as it meant I could probably use the equipment whenever and however I wanted, without the pressure or timetables of other members. Still, the age and quality of equipment is a disappointment.
I met with Sylvie, the owner, to give her paperwork and money. Sylvie and her husband owned the gym, and were both former champion body-builders. The gym is covered with posters and pictures of them at the height of their muscled careers. I sat down opposite Sylvie, and commented on one of the posters. “Is that you? Very impressive!” I said. “Yes, that's me, but it's nothing” Sylvie had modestly replied. “Yes, it's very good.” I insisted, looking at Sylvie's muscled thighs stick through a bikini. “Oh, it was for a competition," she told me. "But that was a long time ago.”
I, used to the procedures and pressures of gyms in the U.S., was surprised by the informality of the whole thing. There were no releases to sign, or tours and introductions to the equipment made. There was no card or check-in procedure, no questions about my experience or background, no rules stated or regulations covered. Just a name and address given, some cash and a photo, and I was hand-written into the ledger book that acted as a membership database and told she could start whenever. I asked if I had to present myself to someone when I came, so that they knew I was enrolled and paid and legitimate to be there, and Sylvie answered that it would always be either her or the Monsieur (Mr. Olympus himself) there, and they would know me. So,I thanked the bodybuilder, and left.

Working out there has been interesting too. From being the only woman (and told on my first visit that I should follow the 'female workout' posted on the wall - I noticed there wasn't a 'male workout' posted anywhere), and from having to say hello to everyone I run across in the gym (one man even came around and shook EVERYONE's hands- talk about the spread of sweat and germs!), to using hand weights that are held together with splitting pieces of wood. All said, though, I really like this gym. Friendly guys, great location, decent equipment, and lots of motivational posters- Sylvie and the Monsieur never looked better!

Back in Carcassonne

November 13, 2006
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I'm settling back into my French life. November is going to be a pretty relaxing and nice month I think. Yes, I am trying to do
nanowrimo again this year, but just for fun. The weather is turning colder, although today was really very warm, with a gentle breeze that had everyone smiling.

This month, my students are doing internships at local elementary schools, and taking over as teachers for three weeks. In turn, the regular teachers are coming back to the IUFM to do continuing education, which I am teaching. So this month, I am doing language perfection workshops with teachers, at three hours each session! It's a lot of preparation (three hours is a huge amount of time to fill for each class), but I think it will be fun and interesting. Other than that, November is going to be a month of parties, with everyone settling into the winter season and inviting each other round. This week already I've attended two dinner parties, with invitations to three more over the weekend.

So, what have I been up to? Monday and Tuesday I taught and did lesson plans for the continuing education classes. On Wednesday, I joined the gym (that's a whole nother story!), and then met a very interesting woman, Linda, at my friend Anne's shop. This lead to an invitation to an art opening on Thursday and a dinner party on Saturday. After that, I had a dinner party with three German friends, and then Jana and I went to see a very interesting movie called L'Arche Russe (Russian Ark). The local cinema club (which is literally next door to my apartment) is sponsoring a film series this month which is all movies about art. So we went to the movie, and then there was a discussion afterwards about it, which was intriguing because of everyone's interpretation of the film, none of which matched my own.

On Thursday, I went to the gym (again...a great story...to be written soon!), and then the cyber cafe, and then met Emily for coffee at Place Carnot, and there ran into a few other kids we know, including one girl who I randomly met on the train about three weeks ago. Then Jana showed up too. It was just so small town! I met Linda to go to the art opening, but she ran me down to the movie theater, saying that plans had changed, and we were going to see the Woody Allen film instead and then have dinner at the creperie. Whatever, I didn't have an agenda anyway. So we saw the movie, and then went to dinner. Now, the funny thing about the creperie is that it's been a joke between Michaela and I for about a month. We passed it one day, and we were both so excited that there was a creperie in town. But then, we could never find it again. So we started wondering if we had both just imagined it? It's become this joke, like anytime we're not sure about something, we reference the disappearing creperie. But it is actually there, and it's delicious, and it's the first time I've eaten out in Carcassonne, which is crazy! I think about how often I eat out in Portland, and I can't believe I haven't been out yet here. After a huge and long dinner with Linda, who is an ex-American and now British citizen with an apartment in Carca who is a freelance journalist and an expert lecturer on Robert Frost, I walked up to the pub to see who was there, and of course, everyone was there. After an ample dose of the usual crowd, I came back home and worked on my writing.

On Friday, I slept in way too late, wrote and wrote and wrote (my story is becoming a little out of control...), and then I went to sit in the sun (t-shirt weather!) at Chez Felix, one of the Place Carnot cafes, with a book. As I was getting into it, Linda showed up, talked to me for about an hour, had me read her play, and then asked me to come to her apartment to pick up a load of books she had picked out for me. So, I dutifully abided. She also wanted me to meet her hairdresser, Alain, whom she calls, “my sexy French hairdresser.” It's true that for an older gay French man, Alain is pretty charming, but he told me that my hair was too thin and needed “fortification”. It was very thin, he reemphasized, especially at my age. He told me to come back, and we would do a special treatment. Hmmmm, not so sure about all that.

After retrieving a huge bag of books from Linda, I went to the gym (much calmer this time around), and then ran home to shower and get ready for the dinner party Michaela accidentally got stuck throwing. She had originally invited five girls, and by the time we got into the food and wine, there were 15 in the apartment. It was a great party though, with delicious food, lots of languages being thrown around, and an ample amount of champagne. Then I walked my friend Sarah home and had tea with her and her insane kitten, came back home and started working on the load of borrowed books.

Saturday, I went to the market, had coffee with Michaela and Katie, went to the bazaar market, and then home to put away groceries, write, and take a shower. I got a call from Jay inviting me to Montsegur, a cathar castle that I have been REALLY wanting to visit (I even read a book about it!), but unfortunately the times wouldn't work out because I had to back in town for a dinner party at 6, and he wanted to stay longer than that and do a hike. That was disappointing, especially since I haven't seen Jay in weeks, and he's moving to Toulouse at the end of the month. Oh, well, I'll see him soon, and I can go to the castle another time. Then I hung out and wrote and then I had a dinner party at my friend Anne's house, with my new friend Linda and a young couple who have an 18 month old baby, Ella. We ate SO much and drank lots of good red wine, and it was a merry party all around.

On Sunday, I did absolutely nothing except read, write, go for a walk, and eat dinner with Jana. Then I wrote some more and read and went to sleep. That brings us to today! See, my life isn't always glamorous trips to Spain. Most of it is just hanging out, going to the gym, and seeing friends. Like Portland. But without the rain.

Spain!!!!

November 8, 2006
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Journal- Spain

My itinerary:
Wednesday, October 25- Friday, October 27: Barcelona
Friday, October 27: bus to Granada (13 ½ hours!)
Monday, October 30: bus to Madrid
Friday, November 3: bus to Barcelona
Saturday, November 4: train to Carcassonne

So, ten days in Spain. It was wonderful! Two days with Michaela at the beginning in Barcelona, three days in Granada with Kate Friendly-Jones, Elyse Tishkoff, and Elyse's college friend Scott, four days in Madrid staying with Elyse and her boyfriend Antonio, and then one more day in Barcelona with Michaela. It was an amazing experience, being in three great Spanish cities, eating SO much good food, speaking some Spanish (and understanding a lot of it!), catching up with old friends and making new ones. I felt really happy and excited in Spain. I have to admit two things though: one, I did start to get homesick on this trip. I think it was being around childhood friends and talking about families, friends, Ashland, relationships, etc. Two, I was happy and relieved to be back in France where I could understand and be understood by everyone and everything. I got the basics down about survival in Spain: asking for coffee, beer, and tostadas, explaining myself (name, occupation, etc.), finding out information (where is the bus? How long is the ride? 13 ½ hours, are you freakin serious?!?!).
In Barcelona, we went all over the city: Las Ramblas, the Sagrada Familia, the Port Vell, The Park Guell, Montjuic, The Park Joan Miro, etc. There is so much going on all the time in Barcelona. Huge boulevards packed with shoppers, performers, tourists, pickpockets, kids, old people. Small winding streets with nothing but bars and restaurants. The city is huge, but with a metro pass and good shoes, you can see a lot in just a little time. The hostel was sterile, but functional. The first two nights we had a dorm with 7 guys, Mexican, French, Canadian, American, and that was interesting. One of the Mexican guys was saying that everywhere he went in Europe he had been stopped by police because of his look and skin color. This was the same guy that was trying to buy drugs on the street a few blocks from the hostel. I wonder if he thought there was a connection between his police contact and his touristic activities?
Granada might be the town I preferred of the three I saw. It is small, but lively. Beautiful, with a scenic placement right in front of the Sierra Nevada that is hard to beat, but it's a real place, kind of funky, with a great energy. The hostel I stayed at was cool too, with a roof-top terrace with a 360 view of the town. The staff were all foreigners, who didn't speak Spanish, but did speak French. The land around this area is so interesting. There are caves in the hills that are used as homes, bars, and flamenco clubs. Because I was there with Elyse, who had lived in Granada for a year, I got to see a lot of local things. Favorite restaurants, shops, viewpoints, etc. We went to a Flamenco show that featured the guitar...it was wonderful. The coolest part of the show was that it was in a theater, and behind the stage was a huge window looking out over the Alhambra all lit up at night. So the background to the dancers and musicians was the glowing Alhambra. It was so magical. On Sunday, Kate and I toured the Alhambra. I had no idea it would be so beautiful and so impressive, and so symbolically rich.
On Monday morning, Elyse, Scott, and I took the bus to Madrid. When we got to Elyse's house, Antonio, her boyfriend, had cooked lunch. Then Elyse and Antonio had to go to work, so Scott and I just hung out at the house and talked and worked on his bike. Scott is doing the Camino de Santiago on a mountain bike. He bought this bike at a pawn shop, and it needs a lot of work. So we talked bikes and changed nearly everything on the bike, and practiced Spanish and just hung out. It felt like I was at home, helping a boy with his bike... The next day, I went into town and met the other Scott, who is an assistant in a small town in France, but is from Portland. We walked around and got lost and just enjoyed the city. Madrid is an incredible city for walking. The architecture is like nothing I've ever seen. It's most definitely European, but so different from the buildings in France or Italy or Germany. The scale and attention to detail is unreal, and I was just in awe of the fantastic creativity and classicism that the buildings, the streets, the people displayed. There is so much style and design in Spain. Furniture and clothes and the use of line and color. I was in design heaven! Scott and I met the other Scott at the Prado and spent a couple of hours there, which was a good introduction and allowed us to see everything quickly, but that museum definitely warrants several more visits. There were pieces there that I have wanted to see my whole life, and it made me wish I had re-read all of my art history notes before this trip. The most spectacular was the Bosch “Garden of Delights”. This is a painting that has fascinated me (and everyone else) for so long, and it was incredible to stand before it and take a good long look at all the detailed insanity. I loved it!
After the Prado, we went back home and cooked dinner for Elyse and Antonio. The next day, we went into town and walked around, ate lunch, and went to the Retiro, which is the huge park in Madrid. It's lovely, and everyone was out taking a stroll. There are a few things that one must do in Madrid- the museums, a few touristic places, etc., but really the thing to do in this city is just to walk and look at the people and the life there. I really enjoyed Madrid. On Thursday I went to the Reina Sofia, which is the contemporary art museum. It was full of Picasso (including Guernica), Dali, Miro, etc. and was a delightful museum experience, but again, one that must be repeated. I met up with Elyse afterwards and went for tapas and some girl time. It was so fabulously wonderful to catch up with her and spend the week together. She's such a great girl, and we have so much in common. She's one of those friends who you can not see for years, and still have the same closeness and ease of connection that you always did.
On Friday, I took a bus (so many buses!) to Barcelona, met up with Michaela at the hostel, took another girl with us to the magic fountain show, which we missed, and ate dinner at an Indian restaurant, with the hugest mango lassi I've ever seen. Then we walked down the port, and when they went back to the hostel, I went for a little walk in the Barri Gotic. Saturday saw us just strolling around, going to the market, drinking Spanish hot chocolate (same taste, texture, and thickness as jello pudding), seeing a few more places, and then heading to the train station to go back to Carcassonne. We got in around midnight, and I slept until noon the next day.
That was my trip in Spain. It was sunny, warm, and beautiful. Full of friends, food, art, and energy! Remember to check out Flickr for pictures! Or just click on the photo to the right, and it will take you there.

A beachy weekend!

October 18, 2006
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Ok, here we go. I believe last time I was going to the theater and making plans for the weekend. Well, I went to the theater, and then on Saturday, Michi and I went to Perpignan. It's a wonderful city further South, with Catalan and Spanish influences. We did all the tourist things in the morning, including walking around a fortress/palace full of old chapels and state rooms, and an amazing 360 degree view from the roof top. Then, we had a picnic, and took the bus to the beach. Great sand, bright blue water and bright blue sky, and warm enough to put on sunscreen and lay in the sun. We sunbathed and read, and then bought some churros and headed back to town to catch the train.
On Sunday, Michi and Jana and I went for a hike in the country. Jana has a car (hooray!), which means that we got to actually get into the real country side. We drove out of town into the Corberes, and parked at a tiny village (population 53) called Termes. We started our hike there, which took us for about four hours through peaceful creekside paths, incredibly steep rocky climbs, high plateaus filled with thyme and goat shit, past beautiful vineyards with leaves turning orange and red, and through chestnuts groves where we gathered chestnuts. The hike ended at the Cathar chateau. We explored the ruins, and then drove to a slightly larger town to have a coffee, and then back home. When we got home, Jana started cooking a soup for dinner, and I went to meet the Spanish language assistant, who JUST arrived that night (Sunday). She is from Cuba (which is why it's taken her so long to arrive...she couldn't get her visa, etc.), and she doesn't speak a word of French. She understands hello and goodbye, but that's about it. It's amazing to hear her talk about Cuba. She said that France to her is not just another world, it's another planet (which is good, because we need to replace Pluto...). I feel sorry for her, she is so scared and lost here, and is a very shy girl anyway, so she's not really open to the new language and experience. And living in Cuba, she's never been anywhere or seen anything. Like fresh milk in the grocery store was incredible to her. I can't even imagine how isolated that life must be, and how unbelievable it would be to leave for the first time, and come to France which oozes excess and freedom. So Sunday evening, Michi, Jana, Najmi, and my friend Julie all had delicious butternut squash, chestnut and potato soup at my apartment.
On Monday, I bought bus tickets for my trip to Spain! Barcelona, Granada, and Madrid. I'm SO excited! I had five hours of teaching on Monday, and then I got to go to writing group! I love this group. I love that I get to get together twice a month with a few other writers and discuss characters and plot and writing strategies. It's so comforting and inspiring, and really makes me feel balanced and healthy. This time, Jana came along with me, and that was really fun!
Tuesday was more teaching, all day, and then a goodbye dinner for my friend Marcus who is going back to Germany, and then a party at the IUFM (the school where I teach) with plenty of music to dance to and strong punch to drink. I hung out with my students/friends and that was really fun!
Today is work in the morning, errands in the afternoon (going to join the gym!!!! :) ), and then who knows?
My flickr name is becincarca, so look me up, check out my pictures, and add me to your contacts!

I hope you're all doing well! Talk to you soon!

Why is Gerard Depardieu working at the patisserie down the str

October 11, 2006
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No, seriously. I got his autograph, and a croissant. Things here in France are going along in their slow, delicious pace. We had our first winter storm tonight, complete with lightning and thunder. It was rather dramatic and exciting! Since I last wrote, I have visited another town, made new friends, cooked incredible meals, and begun a new piece of fiction.
I finally got a bank account, though I still don't have the bank card...and my legal residency here is pending on a medical appointment that I don't get to make-I just have to wait until they send me a letter with the date and time. So, I'm waiting and hoping that it doesn't come while I'm out of town for vacation.
Last weekend, I was a good tourist. Michaela and I took a boat tour of the canal, and I met some very lively English folk, including my buddy John who thinks my name is Dorris. “Well, ello Dorris! How are ya today?” (This is how he greeted me at the train station the other morning when we happened to both be there.). On Saturday, Michi and I went to the market at Place Carnot, five blocks from our apartment (this is a Saturday morning tradition, where I buy all my fruits and vegetables for the week, and occasionally a baguette). After marketing, I meet up with friends for coffee at Cafe des Aromes, and this week Michi and I had coffee with Inga and Marcus, Germans living in Carca. On Sunday we took the train Beziers, which is a very pretty and historically important town a bit southeast of Carcassonne. We walked around for about four hours, touring the old town, the cathedrale, having a hot chocolate, and then heading home.
Michaela is the German assistant at the IUFM, and we live in the same apartment building. We spend most of our time together, traveling about, talking, and cooking. I don't have a table in my apartment, so we usually cook at her place and eat there. We trade off nights, one night it's her ingredients and cooking, the next night it's mine. She is really sweet, and it's nice to have someone who is sharing this experience.
On Monday, I had dinner at my friend Jay's house with all his roommates. There are 8 people living together in this HUGE house a little out of downtown. Jay's American, Susan, who is in my writing class and is the barmaid at the Irish Pub, and who first took me out in Carca, is Irish, Katie is also an assistant, at the high school, and she's from New Zealand, and then there are five French kids living there as well. Jay cooks out of a book called “Forbidden Cuisine”, or something like that. He made a Southern (as in US) inspired meal with French ingredients: fried rabbit? Okra with vinaigrette? Gravy with liver? Yep, it was real down home!
I also had my first workshop on Monday, with all of one student showing up to speak English with me. We had a great conversation though. He speaks Occitan (the regional language), and gave me a whole history lesson about the language and the traditions. It was very interesting! On Tuesday, I actually had 11 students show up! I hadn't planned anything, because I was just expecting Benjamin again, so I had to wing the whole thing. And they won't talk. It's like pulling teeth. You teachers who are reading this journal, please, please give me ideas! How do I make 24 year old students speak in English? I thought I would be great at that (I'm a 23 year old person speaking in a foreign language), but it's hard. I'm gonna start going in and just saying something horrible and controversial to get them arguing, like “all you French people smell, and I think the Iraq war is a wonderful idea!”. Maybe that will work?
Also on Tuesday, I bought my train tickets to Barcelona to begin my Toussaint vacation. I will be traveling to Barcelona for a couple of days, and then to Granada, and then to Madrid to stay with my good friend Elyse. Then back to Barcelona for one more night, and then home to Carcassonne. After leaving the station, I stopped by the NEW GYM, a gym that is about two blocks from my apartment. It's pretty crappy, old equipment, no classes except for one called “Body Sculpt” that I'm pretty sure is to help old ladies from fully dropping, but the woman there (the owner's mother) was SO sweet and so excited that I came in. Also, the location is great, and, for those of you who know me and my need to go to the gym all the time, it is tempting. I could use some body sculpting anyway. I think I'll join!
Yesterday, a student at the UFM invited Michi and I out for drinks. We had made dinner plans with Yanna, a girl we met who used to live in Carca, and is just back visiting and staying in the campsite outside of town. I cooked a delicious yellow curry (there is a little Asian market down the street from my place! I bought yellow curry paste, coconut milk, and a pork bun! I was SO happy to know that I don't have to go three months without Thai food- Portland, I miss you!). Maybe it's because I have TONS of time on my hands, or because groceries are so cheap, or because I'm suddenly having a domestic urge, but I have been cooking so much, and always wanting to cook! I've made, since being here, so many things! Maybe it's buying the produce from the farmers, I don't know! But last night's curry was damn good!
So, I went out smelling like onions, and thinking that I was going to birth a little curry child, to the pub to meet the very sweet French girls who invited us out. After about an hour, this big guy come up to the table, and says in English, “I heard Rebecca's sitting over here.” I look up, it's my friend Gary from the writing group. So, the girls have to go home and study (how I don't miss being in school), so I join the other table. Gary is writing a movie script, in fact he had just finished it that day and was celebrating, and Aden, the leading actress was there helping him along.
Today I just worked and worked and worked. I have to prepare all my lessons for the next week, as well as my workshops, and also putting things onto the shared network so the students can read and hear examples of English. I finally took a break and worked on my own fiction piece. My writing 'teacher' gives us homework assignments, and this assignment was to do a character profile for each of our characters. A character profile. I don't have a character, much less many characters that would necessitate an entire profile (what am I going to do with a gun rack? Wayne's World...). The story I've been working on is lost (the file is corrupted...a nice way for the computer to tell me that my story is a piece of crap, and that I should just bag it anyway.), so I've been quickly trying to piece together a new story with new characters. It's been fun, but I still haven't gotten up the courage to take my laptop to a cafe and stay for several hours like I usually do when I write. I'm afraid that would just be too weird and too rude.
Tomorrow, more work (trying to get it done before the weekend!), and then I'm going to the theater in the evening to see “L'Ecole des Femmes” by Moliere. I may be going to Toulouse for Friday and Saturday, still to be determined, and/or to Lourdes for a day.
Also, a great thing happened today! I got a package from my mom full of warm things like pajamas and socks! I am SO happy to have more than one sweater and more than one pair of jeans! Thank you Mom!
I think that about sums it up and fills it in. I have put a few pictures on Flickr, and I will be momentarily emailing invitations to view them. It's been so wonderful to hear from everyone, so please keep in touch! I hope you're all doing well!

Lots of love.

A nice week!

October 6, 2006
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After my arduous work week of 4 hours on Monday and 4 hours on Tuesday, I went to Montpeller on Wednesday for a jour de formation (training day) with the other IUFM assistants in the academy. The day itself wasn't too exciting, but it was great to meet the other girls! Michaela and I decided to take the later train back to Carcassonne, so we got to hang out for a few hours in Montpeller. It is such a beautiful city, really young and lively, with amazing views from its hilltop monuments, and streets winding around little squares. Got home around 10:30pm and hung out.
Yesterday, I did administrative stuff (still don't have my residency papers!), etc. And then we cooked mussels and salad with some friends, and then I dragged them out to the pub to see a band and meet a couple of my other friends there. Carcassonne is small, but so easy to meet people! I met literally half the bar last night and made some new friends! Hooray!
Hanging out today, planning our weekend trip to Perpignan? Quillan? Lourdes? Hmmm...! Keep in touch!

Need to Rehydrate!!!!

October 3, 2006
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You know it's going to be rough Tuesday morning when you're out Monday night with a couple of Irish. It started benignly enough. On Sunday I went to the Office of Tourism to get some bus schedules, and I found a little flyer, in English, about a creative writing group meeting here in Carcassonne every other Monday. I was so excited to have found something like that, so Monday evening I walked over to the house, and joined this lovely little group of writers. There were 7 of us in all, the teacher (English), Anne (the English woman who I met the other day who owns the English book shop up the street from me), another british woman, a canadian, and two irish. The class was great, and it was so nice to be writing again and discussing things like vocabulary choice and tone and rhythm. After class, which ended at 10:30, Susan the Irish woman, who is a bar tender at the Irish Pub where my Spanish friend took me the other night, took me to another bar across the canal, where I drank I think about a liter of beer (Oktoberfest...) and met tons of new French, Irish, Brazilan, etc. friends. and was escorted home at 2 to wake up at 7 and go teach people about American culture (which I felt somewhat legitimate in doing since I had, afterall, been drinking beer).

During the weekend (and I will post pictures, I promise), I'm pretty sure, though not entirely certain, that I was wedded to a donkey during a tradtional Carcassonnian parade (don't worry, Ben, I'm sure it's not binding!). That's right, while walking about la cité (the walled city), I heard music and shouting. I followed it to find winding through the streets a long line of older men in serious drag, women dressed as gypsies, and a bride and groom (symbolic) all dancing along to a band of wandering...minstrels? The bride rode on a donkey. I asked one of the locals who was taking pictures what it was all about, and he told me that it's a traditional parade on the first Sunday of every October to celebrate the fall and also the roles of masculinity and feminity (thus all the drag?). He told me that they have been doing this since, oh, the 12th century or so. They find young women along the path, and make them kiss the donkey. I joked that I should hide myself. About 1/2 hour later, I found myself in the crowd, with my camera out, taking pictures and laughing, when suddenly, a gentleman in a pink tutu and red wig took my hand. We had a lovely dance, and then he led me to the donkey. Well, what could I do? When in Rome...or apparantly, when in the middle ages...

That about somes up my weekend. I began work on Monday, and my students are great! I like the job, I like the hours, I'm really excited about getting involved with all of it. Tomorrow I am going to Montpellier for a training day with all the IUFM assistants in the academy. I'm looking forward to meeting the others and having some more contacts around the area! Also! Good news- I've found a few friends with cars which means that I can see the area a bit! That's great! Also! In even better news- I just bought a plane ticket home for Christmas! Hooray!

So, I hope you're all doing well. Keep in touch!

What Am I Going To Do With All This Free Time?!?!

September 29, 2006
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I got my teaching schedule. I was hired to work 12 hours per week, which sounded reasonable for my vacation here in Europe, but my real schedule is more like 9 hours a week, with several weeks a month that I don't even have classes. Thus leading to the question...what am I going to do with all that time? My dad's response, of course, would be "eat as much cassoulet as you can!". Not too terribly tempting... My answer of course is to travel; let's just hope that I can afford it!
In other news, I have some friends! Sonia is Spanish, Michaela is German, and I met some French girls the other night who will soon become amies, they just don't know it yet.
I've mostly just been getting things done (so many papers to sign, accounts to open, etc.) and hanging out in town. The people here are so nice and helpful. I feel really happy and comfortable in Carcassonne, and I think it's partly because it re,inds me of Portland- active but laid back, really friendly and not at all pretentious. Lots of trees and green space, and lots of people walking in the streets and saying hello to each other.
I'll post pictures as soon as I can get my own computer working, and then I will have more time to work on this journal. Until next time!

Carcassonne

September 28, 2006
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I hear it's 80° in Portland. That's lovely! The weather is perfect here too, t-shirt and jeans weather. I can't explain how beautiful Carcassonne is. It's a small town, which actually has three parts to it- the medieval cite, the old ville-basse, and the more modern city around it. The cite is a complete wall city, with blue turrets and huge doors. Think knights in shining armor, damsels in gauzy dresses, and jesters jumping around. People live and work in the city. Then the ville-basse (in the bastide St. Louis), where I live, is a crowded old town with narrow streets and ancient buildings. I have a studio apartment on the top floor of a building that is for young working people. Basically, it's like being in college again, except this time I'm encouraged to have wine in my room.

Ok, I have to get off the internet, but will write more soon!

Bonjour!

September 23, 2006
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Hello! Well, I'm here in France after a very long day of travel by plane, bus, train, and car. Fortunately, the woman I'm staying loves cheese, so my travels have been rewarded. Nelly is her name and she is a professor of English at the University, my colleague, and as of Thursday my adopted French mother, feeding me, touring me around, letting me use her phone and internet. She is SO wonderfully nice and interesting. I can tell already that my stay in France this time will be a lot different than my last stay because my language skills are so much better. I am starting here with the level I left with last time, and it's already increasing my access to people and information.

I am currently in the lovely town of Narbonne. It is a town full of history (capital of the once Roman-ruled parts of France, capital of a former dukedom, etc.)and much beauty with a canal running through the center of town, and a huge ancient chateau and cathedrale surrounded by outdoor cafes, and of course a Monoprix.

I have to interupt myself here for a minute- Nelly just brought me tea and cake on a little tray. She is SO sweet! Maybe the karma from helping French teachers at PFS is finally coming round? :)

Anyway, I think I've written enough to properly bore you (or peak your interest to keep reading...?), and I won't write again until I have something truly fascinating to share!

I hope you are all doing very well, and I hope to hear from you soon!

~Rebecca~